Episode 7: Permission to Grieve with Shelby Forsythia
In this follow up to my last episode I speak with Grief Recovery Specialist and author Shelby Forsythia. The title of her new book ‘Permission to Grieve’ is all about exactly that giving your self permission to grieve. She discusses three different types of permissions we can give ourselves; 1.) Permission to feel-the emotional experience, 2.) Permission to be-allow your identity to change and be different then who you were before the grief triggering event, 3.) Permission to do- to take your grief into the world. At the end of this episode Shelby asks me to do an exercise she does with her clients so tune in to learn more.
Guest information and contacts:
Shelby Forsythia is the author of Permission to Grieveand podcast host of Coming Back: Conversations on Life After Loss. After the unexpected death of her mother in 2013, she became a “student of grief” and set out on a lifetime mission to explore the oft-misunderstood human experience of loss. Through her book, weekly podcasts, and one-on-one grief guidance, she helps grieving people find direction, get support, and cultivate radical self-compassion after devastating loss.
Shelby is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, Reiki Level II Practitioner, and Intuitive Grief Guide. Her work has been featured on Huffington Post, Bustle, and Optimal Living Daily. She currently lives in Chicago.
You can find out more about Shelby and her work at http://www.shelbyforsythia.com/
Shelby’s new book “Permission to Grieve” https://amzn.to/2JP3y60 Dying (purchase on amazon, this is an affiliate link, I receive a small percentage of the sales to produce my podcast)
Links and mentions from the episode:
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross: Author of “On Grief & Grieving” The original 5 stages of grief that were supposed to be the 5 stages of death and dying.
https://amzn.to/32fkn0l On Death and Dying (purchase on amazon, this is an affiliate link, I receive a small percentage of the sales to produce my podcast)
https://amzn.to/34yKPnk On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss
Understand the Divine Dichotomy in All Things (purchase on amazon, this is an affiliate link, I receive a small percentage of the sales to produce my podcast)
“It’s important to learn about Divine Dichotomy and understand it thoroughly if you are to live in our universe with grace. Divine Dichotomy holds that it is possible for two apparently contradictory truths to exist simultaneously in the same space.
Now on your planet people find this difficult to accept. They like to have order, and anything that does not fit into their picture is automatically rejected. For this reason, when two realities begin to assert themselves and they seem to contradict one another, the immediate assumption is that one of them must be wrong, false, untrue. It takes a great deal of maturity to see, and accept, that, in fact, they might both be true.
Yet in the realm of the absolute—as opposed to the realm of the relative, in which you live—it is very clear that the one truth which is All There Is sometimes produces an effect which, viewed in relative terms, looks like a contradiction.”
– Conversations with God, Book 3
https://amzn.to/2WPvWKE (purchase on amazon, this is an affiliate link, I receive a small percentage of the sales to produce my podcast)
Grief Recovery method Grief Support Blog list of over 40 life experiences that cause grief: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/blog/2013/03/over-40-life-experiences-you-might-have-cause-grief
Rob Bell Podcast:
Episode 24 and 45 regarding grief
Member of Scottish Parliament Daniel Johnson is a husband, father, and former business owner. Mr. Johnson was diagnosed with ADHD almost 6 years ago after his wife brought the subject up. He discusses how those with inattentive type that have flown under the radar for years begin to almost hit a crisis point once the structures of being at home and in school are no longer there. As we get older, we begin our careers and start families with all of that comes stress which brings the symptoms more to the forefront. Our forgetfulness, being so called ‘lazy’, disorganization, among the many other symptoms. We talk about his route to diagnosis both with his experience with his private GP and now in the NHS system. This leads to discussion of the lack of resources and the barriers to treatment especially in the more northern sections of Scotland. Daniel is an advocate for medication as a first step alongside the skills for managing, he has a statement he references often “pills and skills” when discussing the need for combination treatments for ADHD. Some of the other topics we cover are the disparities in gender, lack of education on ADHD for teachers and physicians for identifying/working with ADHD, need for mental health screening in prisons, and the stigma around medication.